In relationships and marriage there are instances when couples go through difficult times. Even in 'good' marriages this is the case. People in relationships have different problems and issues and in some cases it can be very damaging to the relationship.
Online PR News – 20-July-2011 – – In relationships and marriage there are instances when couples go through difficult times. Even in 'good' marriages this is the case. People in relationships have different problems and issues and in some cases it can be very damaging to the relationship.
Couples will face challenges and difficult times throughout the course of the marriage and some therapists may even be able to help in unique ways.
Mort Fertel of http://marriagemax.com says
"The ultimate answer to every problem is the same - love. LOVE IS THE FOUNDATION OF YOUR MARRIAGE, and all marital problems stem from a lack of it. Got a problem? You don't need a solution. You need more love. LOVE IS YOUR SOLUTION!
Sound hokey? I know it does. Think about it though. Remember when you fell in love? What problems did you have then? Hardly any, right? Because you had love!
You know that little thing your spouse does with their eye brow or the corner of their mouth? Remember how you used to think it was so cute? Then one day it became annoying, right? Why? Your spouse used to be thrifty and now your spouse is cheap. WHAT CHANGED? Your love changed - that's what changed! And the solution to that annoying problem (and all your problems!) is to rebuild your love.
The problem in most marriages is the way the couple (and sometimes the counselor) sees the problem. If you see your problems as the problem; that's your problem.
Once people join the Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot Camp and begin a dialogue with me, their first inclination is to ask me for a solution to their marriage problems. My solution is for them to institute a series of relationship habits that slowly but surely builds a new foundation for their marriage.
Fixing problems and developing communication skills can lead to small incremental changes in your marriage. But if you want to transform your marriage, if you want to make a quantum change, if you want to know how to save a marriage, you have to implement a pattern of new relationship habits. You have to create love.
People get all bogged down in the negativity of trying to solve their problems. It's no fun and it's not productive. The crucial question in marriage is NOT how to solve your problems; it's how to create love.
Your problems probably seem complex. But the good news is that the solutions are simple. Be a hedgehog. Focus on building your love. That will solve ALL your problems."
When people decide to get married or start a relationship the decision is based mostly on love. As much as a cliche as it may be love really is the answer. When you deal with your partner in a loving way even when there are disagreements it changes the interaction. It's hard to have bad intentions when you respond and act with love.
Says Fertel "Everyone has problems, issues, and challenges in their marriage. Yours may even be severe. And you will no doubt face a variety of problems over the years.
You might think that for each new problem, you need a new solution. But you don't! Think like a hedgehog not a fox. Remember, for a hedgehog THE SOLUTION IS ALWAYS THE SAME.
Some radio and television shows are hosted by relationship experts who have guests or allow people to call-in to share their problems. It's fascinating the myriad of problems that couples face. What's equally fascinating is the host's ability to find unique solutions for all the different problems."
Mort Fertel is creator of "Marriage Fitness" an alternative to counseling, designed to help couples save their marriage.
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