To become a better husband and partner it is important to focus on what you can improve about yourself. Most people want the other person to change because the perception is that the relationship problem is the other person's fault.
Online PR News – 14-July-2011 – – To become a better husband and partner it is important to focus on what you can improve about yourself. Most people want the other person to change because the perception is that the relationship problem is the other person's fault.
It's amazing how a relationship can be improved if even one party is focused on self improvement.
According to Aaron Traister:
"During a recent argument, my wife, Karel, told me I needed to "grow up," so I thought I'd give it a shot. I'd spend four weeks making myself over, and I wouldn't tell Karel, just to see if she was paying attention. Among other things, I changed up my clothes and returned to my teenage wrestling workouts — because nothing says maturity like playing dress-up and trying desperately to relive high school."
Aaron spent 30 days working on how he could improve himself for the benefit of his wife. But he quickly realized that although he started the process for his wife's sake he experienced a huge amount of benefits.
He goes on to say:
"I bought her flowers.
When Karel and I started dating, I was a bouncer at a bar in New York City. After every shift, I'd grab daisies (her favorite) from a 24-hour bodega near the bar so Karel would wake up to fresh flowers in the morning. I gradually slacked off, blaming it on the fact that our cat loves knocking things like flower vases over. But I know that's a lame excuse. So I started buying Karel flowers again and kept a close eye on our chaos-loving cat.
I put the first bouquet on the dining room table in our "fancy vase," and Karel noticed immediately. She couldn't stop talking about it and kept asking me what she'd done to deserve random flowers. Clearly, this needs to happen more often.
Karel and I hang out together every night, but I surf the Internet while I'm sitting next to her, so she gives me static about only being present physically. To be with her more completely, I scaled back my Internet time and, in my mind, was very successful: Instead of surfing mindlessly for two hours, I answered emails for 15 minutes.
No dice for Karel, though. It irks her every time I touch my laptop after the kids are in bed, and maybe she's right to police my cyber habits. Next time I'll try no computer at all after 5 p.m., but only if she quits BlackBerrying after work too.
I tried not to pounce on her.
Karel complains that I never let her initiate sex. She says I seize every opportunity for action I see: a hug has to turn into sex; folding laundry has to turn into sex; getting back from the vet has to turn into sex. I don't let things develop "organically" or let her make the first move and show me how "sex-positive" she can be.
So I took a step back. The first week went well: I don't know if Karel noticed my restraint, but she did take the lead. (And, by the way, organic sex doesn't feel that different from conventional or processed sex.)"
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Mr. Traister also began an exercise program so that he can get back into good physical condition. Physical health contributes to overall well being and exercising had a positive impact on the relationship. By working on himself and seeking to be the man he wants to become he was able to improve the relations with his wife.
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